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writes:I am 22 years old and three months ago I met a guy. I am still a virgin and in fact he was the first guy I kissed. I really liked him, but he behaved more like a friend and still we were dating. Some days ago we were kissing and when I told him that I am still a virgin, he asked me if I was ready for having sex. I said no, because I always believed that I will make love only with my husband. We had that another moment when he was kissing me and asking if I was ready and I again said 'no'. During those kissing thing he was telling me that he loved me very much. When I refused again, he just disappeared for some time and did not respond to my messages. When we finally met I asked him if he really loved and he said 'no'. On one hand, I am glad that I refused to have sex; yet on the other, I regret that I ever let him kiss me. I feel somewhat guilty that I let a guy who did not really love me to kiss me...My question is: can kissing be equated with losing virginity? I know it sounds stupid, but I am just so upset about him. How guys can be so cruel to girls, kiss her, touch her and then say that they don't love her. Need your opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Even waiting to have sex after marriage is your own values, along with this.
But yeah, its not really against anything...
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reader, DuncanGreen  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Kissing is not the same. It is certainly a form of affection, but is not the same as having sex.
Be happy with yourself, you held your ground when he said he loved you, hoping you would give in. In the end you kept your values and virginity while weeding out a creep with one thing on his mind. Bravo, bravo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Aw. I'm sorry you feel so sad and confused.
He was such a pig.
I'm very glad you said no too.
Kissing is definately alright before marriage. Don't feel guilty. Just be proud and hold your head high because you said "NO" to sex, even when he was trying to presure you into it and lying to you.
Kiss who ever you like and have fun.
Good Luck sweet heart. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Kissing is not the same as sex so your fine! This guy was a jerk and it's good you stuck to your morals as he would have dumped you as soon as you slept with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): I'm sorry to say this but some guys are just like that as are some girls. I dont get what it is that you're asking. Are you saying that if you kiss does that mean you lose your virginity - no. Write back if you can and i will try to answer as best i can:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Well I think this guy is a complete loser and you are better off without him. I would not get upset about the fact you have kissed him you have not done anything wrong and no one can judge you for that. My oppinion is that no kissing cant be equated with losing virginity so dont beat yourself up abput it hun you will find someone out there who respects your wishes X
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