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writes:Hey, so first I want to put it out there that I'm not a naturally insecure person or one of those people who need compliments in order to function.Anyway, I've been with a guy that I'm absolutely in love with for 8 months. The one thing that bothers me is that for as long as I've known him, he's never once complimented - never said I'm pretty or beautiful, never said I'm smart, never saif I'm funny.I know it's kind of a stupid thing but after being around my siblings and their boyfriends/girlfriends, or by friends who are in relationships and seeing how nice they are to their girlfriends or how nice their boyfriends are to them, it kind of makes me feel like something is wrong with me. Is it weird for me to want to know that my boyfriend thinks I'm pretty?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 Of course its not weird. You have all the reason to want him to say something, to compliment you but first know that some people just aren't naturally affectionate toward others, vocally at least, no matter how strongly they feel toward them. Could your boyfriend be one of those people?
Why don't you let him know that its been bothering you. Don't let it escalate into an argument but just let him know that a compliment every now and then would be greatly appreciated.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): Hey girl! I think it's totally natural to want your boyfriend to think you're pretty.Maybe he's just shy or nervous? I had this one relationship once when the person I was dating never complimented me and I never complimented him, but we both could totally tell we were into each other by the way we always wanted each other basically. The way we always wanted to make out or fool around; there's no need for words!But if you really want him to compliment you, try showering him with compliments too and it might be something like "You're always so cute!" and he might say something back like "Thanks, you're cuter though". OR try getting a new outfit and asking him what he thinks. He'll very likely say you look amazing or something like that :]Good luck!
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