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*iamondgal
writes:Why aren't guys attracted to me? Guys never approach but they are always approaching other women, all types. Is it possible to have NO sex appeal? I could be lacking an inate appeal that women supposedly have.What do men look for? Reply to this Question
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reader, diamondgal +, writes (1 September 2009):
diamondgal is verified as being by the original poster of the question No, I don't feel unattractive. That's the thing.
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reader, diamondgal +, writes (1 September 2009):
diamondgal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses.
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reader, kahlan  +, writes (1 September 2009):
 I read this to my partner,and he basically said what i had been thinking.If you think you have no sex appeal and have no confidence in yourself,guys will pick up on that.
You need to start believing in yourself.In Glasgow,Scotland,where im from there is courses on self esteem.You should try and see if there are any where you are. Im a great believer in gaining confidence from courses,as i really didn,t have any confidence and started a creative writing course,though its open university,so i do it from home.I have to put an assignment in every month,sometimes i get them sent back to correct something ive done wrong,but every pass i get,helps me believe in myself that little bit more.
So,try something your intrested in.Every time you learn to do something new,it will help.
Also,you didnt say if you feel unattractive.If you do,doing something as simple as getting your hair done,or putting on a WEE bit make-up(not troweling it on)will make you feel a bit better about yourself.Dont try too hard either,concentrate on doing this for yourself and not anyone else,and once your self-esteem goes up,you should notice a difference.
One more thing,sometimes you will get guys interested in girls with no confidence,because there are certain males who pick up on that,and whats attracting them is the possibility that they can treat you like crap-and you will put up with it.Been there,done that too.
Good Luck,Kahlan.X.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Your problem is evident.
You care way, way too much about that men want or how they see you.
You see yourself as the problem. And thats the stupidest way you can look at things.
Don't go out looking for men, or anything. Go out and have fun, no matter what you are doing. Be happy doing it by yourself and soon enoughn you'll have company.
Flynn 24
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