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writes:There is a guy that i have been talking to and i can tell that he is falling for me and, in a way, i am falling for him as well. He's your average guy and he's just sweet, but there is one problem: I have feelings for my teacher.I have liked this teacher since i was about 12 and its been so impossible for me to wrap my mind around anyone else. Im soon to be 17 and still I know its never going to happen with this teach no matter how bad i want it to, but yet i feel guilty about being in a relationship with this guy when my teacher still triggers in my head.I know i have a right to be happy and i would do everything i can do be a good girlfriend, i just don't know if it's completely fair. Is it fair to this guy? What is the right thing for me to do?It doesnt sound that complicated, but this situation drives me crazy when i think about it all. Please gie me your input.
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reader, xSpacexDementiax  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Hey
I was in the same position as you... madly in love with my teacher, but at the same time there was a boy i'd always liked, and i had a feeling he liked me too.
wasn't planning on acting on it, as I rarely thought about the boy in comparison to the teacher... however, the teacher did something to annoy me and I thought 'to hell with him' and went out and got the boy. Of course immediately as i did this, my teach went back to his lovely old self and i felt guilty.
What I will say to you is that it makes things a LOT more confusing. I know that in my case, it's certianly unfair on my boyfriend, however I haven't the heart to finish it with him because he is besotted by me.
My teacher slags my boyfriend off to me because he is jealous, and makes wistful remarks about me marrying my bf so that I feel guilty - I still want to see the teacher, so I have to make excuses such as that I'm doing revision and don't want to be disturbed to my bf so that I can talk to the teacher.
when I'm with my bf I'm thinking of my teacher, and without going into too much detail if things get intimate between you and your boyfriend thoughts of him will NOT go away.
I don't think I would really advise you going out with the boy if he wants a serious relationship. Fair enough if it's just a relaxed casual thing, go ahead and have some fun.
But I know if I could go back and change it I would, because now there are not only my feelings and the feelings of my teacher to consider, there's also my poor boyfriend who is the innocent party in all this and doesn't even know that there's anything wrong.
Message me if you wanna chat
:) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): I know it's probibly a srtuggle to do but if your teacher hasn't shown any chances of wanting to make it possible then you need to move on and start somthing real
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reader, Queeny  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 Yes i think its not fair for this other guy when you are still infatuated about your teacher. the good thing is that you knw that there's nothing that can happen between you and your teacher (as we are assuming that he has not had any role to play in your feelings for him). i suggest that you talk it with a councellor at school or elsewhere where you can get help. it doesn't seem like a small problem coz being infatuated for that long is just not health. it is normal to get such infatuations but this one seems to get alittle bit too much on the extreme and you should find a way to get over this. if you would also talk it out to a trusted adult it would be good for you. but just to let you know tht this is not healthy for you and that it may even stop you from getting into normal healthy relationships. again, i still hope this teacher has no role to play in this..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): I love Paul Newman, always have and always will. It dosen't matter that he's 83 and happily married. I love him, and that's enough for me. His blue eyes still drive me wild.
But I can't have Paul Newman. His wife loves him very much and would fight me to the death. So I fell in love with somebody else. He didn't make me tingle like my Paulie, but he could hold me and make me smile, and do all the things that my Paulie couldn't.
I love Paul Newman, but I need a real man to make a real relationship with me in the real world. You need to do the same.
PS: Paulie has cancer now (rumors) so send good blessings and prayers to him and his wife.
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reader, 0ffth3wa11 +, writes (12 June 2008):
 I think you should tell this boy that you're falling for that you have one of your teachers in the back of your head. but you still like him. he can decide what he wants to do and if he wants to be with you. it's only right to let him know and see what happens.. good luck xx
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