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writes: My girlfriend and I were comtemplating moving in together. I am 49 and she is 34. I have 4 grown kids from 1 previous marriage and she has none. I always thought if I got involved with someone and they were younger then I would like to have another child. But she does not want to have any. I have thought about this for a while and now because she does not want any I changed my mind and would not have any problem not having any more. With 4 kids I know I will have grandkids someday and that should suffice.The problem is now she thinks I will regret it. I feel the only regret I would have is if I lost her. I have been divorced now for over 15 years and she is truly the love of my life. We get along fine but this is a stickler. She tells me she loves me but wants to break up so I can find someone to have kid with. At my age the chances are very slim so I am very content with her and future kids.Question- is it possble for me to be happy and have no regrets?????? Hope you say yes because this is how I feel. We do love each other very much.
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reader, Adrian.Dion +, writes (17 December 2006):
 I kinda agree...
Seems as though, there is something extra going on with her. I find it strange that she loves you and still has the willingness to let you go, especially after you mentioned that it's ok that she doesn't have children.
Reassure her that you have enough energy which will soon surround you with the grandchildren to come. Your life with her is not predicated on whether or not she has children. She may need to be secure in believing that you will not have any regrets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): You already have children. If she is ok in not having any children herself then what is the problem. Why is she making an issue about whether you want more kids or not? Something does not sound right here. Ask her how she is really feeling about you/relationship. She is not giving you the full story here.
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