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writes: I've been interested in and dating this fantastic black (I am white) woman . we have been dating over the last couple of months, and to the point of considering sex. Is it ok to consider sex with a black woman? Might there be a stigma attached? I know white woman are allowed to have sex with black men but it does not see as common the other way around. Lastly what are some things that a black woman might like about sex with a white man? How to make sex good for her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2022): P.S.
I purposely ignored these highly inappropriate questions:
"Lastly what are some things that a black woman might like about sex with a white man? How to make sex good for her?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2022): People come in different colors, have different textures of hair, and may have some notable distinguishing features; but regardless of race, we're all human beings. I am biracial. There is no difference dating a black woman from a white woman; unless you're unnecessarily concerned about her social class or you're comparing your cultural differences. You should be more interested in what you both have in common. The usual things you'd consider regardless of her race.
I will presume this is a legit post, and not some ridiculous prank by a troll. I must admit, that these questions border on the absurd.
In the two months you've been together you've learned much about her as a person; and shouldn't have found anything about her that makes her any less human or likeable than a white female. As of late, racism has been pushed to the forefront; but if you haven't encountered any problems thus far, enjoy dating and learning things about each-other.
Interracial-relationships have existed for as long as mankind has existed. Bigotry gets in the way, and places a lot of emphasis on racial differences. Some existent, some nonexistent. Creating ugly stereotypes to dehumanize or degrade those of a different origin or ethnicity. Humans are humans; no matter what color we come in.
It is very sad that you would even have to ask such questions. Either that, or you're being an obnoxious internet troll.
Please use condoms if things go that far!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (24 January 2022):
 Her skin may be a different colour to yours but, underneath that outer layer, she is no different to you (or any white woman). Why should dating a woman of another race be so worrying? We live in the 21st century, not in times when mixed race relationships were frowned upon.
Which leads to the question about sex. She will like exactly the same things as a white woman will like: attentiveness, tenderness, communication. Everyone is different in their likes and dislikes, in what turns them on and what has the opposite effect. Talk to her. Ask her what she likes. Take things slowly and you should be able to gauge from her reactions when you are doing something she enjoys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2022): Black women are the same as white women only their skin is dark so what you do with a white girl when you take her out you do with the black girl. Now answer to the second part of your question, a British Prince married a dark skin girl and he didn't give a .... what the others thought, but if you think there would be stigma attached then I advise you to leave her alone. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2022): If you let go of the colour issue and try to see this person as a human being with genuine emotions you will be closer to understanding how she operates as a person.
Then figure out why you like her and what has drawn you closer to her.
If she has given you an indication that she would like to go further with the relationship then you should talk to her about how long the relationship should last and if she is interested in engaging in sexual activity.
According to your ages I would assume that neither of you had much experience so that would put you on an equal footing.
I don't understand the point about being a stigma because who exactly is to know if you've had sex together.
And even if they did, it's not exactly anyone else's business.
I think you might have a bit more growing up to do.
You seem to be led by rumours and other unimportant issues.
You seem to really believe that your complexion determines your personality.
And that all people of the same complexion have the same likes and dislikes.
I've got to admit that part of me thinks you may be just imagining yourself in this situation, which needn't be a situation, just to fuel your own prejudices and fantasies.
You are living in the C.21 and you ask: 'is it o.k. to have sex with a black woman?'
Well, it's as ok as having sex with anyone else providing that you don't force, rape or coerce them and they are over the age of consent.
I wouldn't need to tell you this if you were truly inlove with your alleged girlfriend.
Maybe you should ask if it's ok to get married, but then again it would require the two of you being willing and ready to get married.
I guess I think you're just trolling out of boredom!
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