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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So me and my girlfriend(ex) went out for about 17 or so months(Year and 1/2)and we live in different states(SF/LA) just recently she broke up with me and it was mutual at the time because I wasn't sure what was going on and how I was feeling. We both thought things got a little boring or the spark was lost between us so we acted and that's why/how we broke up. My question to everyone is do you think being bored is normal? and is it a reason to break up? We work wonderfully together and are in love with each other. Also, my other thing is she's afraid of letting me in any further than I am already she's had a lot shit happen so she is afraid i'm gonna leave her and i've assured her that i'm not going anywhere, what should I do?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Getting bored in a relationship is a perfectly normal and acceptable reason to break up. Let's face it, in a relationship you either break up, or you die together. It's morbid, but it's reality, and getting bored of a relationship just happens - especially when you're so far away and so young. So this seems like a relationship you can chalk up to good memories and good experience, but one that you can let go and not feel bad about.
But then we get to the end of your question where you're still in love and working well and it doesn't sound like you've broken up fully... that confuses me. If you are crazy in love and can't imagine being without each other in particular (as opposed to being without a mate), why are you breaking up in the first place?
But if you're just bored and that spark is gone, let it go. If you're meant to be together, you'll find each other in time.
Good luck!
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