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writes:Is it bad that i get jelous if my boyfriend likes other girls pictures on facebook? and ive seen it a cuople times not often but when i do see it i get frustrated and a little hurt. I hate bieng the jelous type i cant help it... I mean i know for a fact that he isnt cheating on me he puts good effort and everything seems in order if he was i would have known his friends would have told me but other than that i know he is not. I dont if im getting upset for nothing... of if i should talk about it with him...he hates jelous girls so i just bite my toung on that one..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2012): Hey I'd be just as jealous, I think it depends on a girls personality, some may think were being silly but others may feel the exact same way.
It's as if "he's my boyfriend. why does he like pictures of other girls?"
it then makes you paranoid, the only way you can overcome this is by talking to him about it and getting it off your chest, there could be good reasoning, or maybe he just does it without thinking it hurts your feelings, I'm sure he'd stop if he knew :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2012): I would be jealous too but then so would my bf. just tell him honestly how it makes you feel he really should be more considerate of your feelings x
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reader, Foxglove  +, writes (5 October 2012):
For me, it all depends on the context of the picture. Are the pictures OF the girls, or are they just the girl's pictures of other things he may be interested in? If the pictures are of the girls, is it just situations like if one of them got their hair done differently and he simply likes the way it looks on her? I think that's all acceptable behaviour, provided he gives you similar attention. However, what is NOT ok, would be if he's liking pictures of them posing in provocative positions/wearing revealing clothing etc. That's just my two cents, though. In the end, it's your feelings that matter.
No matter what, the main point is this: If you're feeling hurt by something he's doing, and he won't be considerate, that's a problem with him, not you. In a relationship, both partners need to love and respect each other equally. Having your feelings considered is need, him being able "like" pictures of other girls on facebook, is not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2012): 'Like' is only the click of a button, so its far from cheating. It does however give the wrong impression to people involved, and does beg the questions "Why he's liking them?" and "would he mind if you liked other guys pictures on facebook?". You're bound to be jealous because its like he maybe comparing you to them, or may find them attractive in ways he may not find you attractive in. Its overall disrespectful in my opinion, and I don't think anyone should do something they wouldn't like done to/on them.
You should tell him how it makes you feel, after all, communication, understanding and mutual ground, are vital things in a relationship. If he kicks up a fuss then he's only really got himself to blame, he's in the wrong, its got nothing to do with you being jealous. As I said before, would he like it if you made a habit of liking other guys pictures?
If he wants a girlfriend that doesn't care what he does, then that's like asking for a girlfriend that doesn't have any feelings for him whatsoever.
Jealousy can become a huge problem for some relationships as I know from experience having insecure ex girlfriends, but jealousy to a degree is natural and healthy in a relationship. He should really begin to worry when you show no signs of caring about what he does, because then it shows you don't love him or love him enough to care.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 October 2012):
 If I am being honest with you there is no harm in him liking other girls pictures on facebook. You need to try and over come this, just remember you are the one that has him and he is allowed to have female friends as well. It is you he wants as his girlfriend though, just remember that.
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