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*herryBoom
writes:Well i never done this but i need to get this off of my chest.Ever since my ex cheated on me, i'm having difficulties with my self esteem.The thing is he cheated on me with a girl who has more curves then i do(probably size 10 or 12) and i'm a size 2.I have been always skinny since i was a child my other siblings looked more healthier than i did.It's still the same thing today.I mean i keep on shoving all kinds of food into myself to gain weight but it simply won't happen.So when my ex left me for that girl it was like a fat slap in my face. I even confronted, him to know whether i did something wrong or so and the answer i got just made me feel worthless.He left me because i am way to skinny and no other guy with a decent mind would go out with a "skinny bitch".Ever since then i don't like going out to any kind of party or anything similar. I just feel uncomfortable and awkward. I know it sounds pretty sad but what else can i do?
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 He sounds very messed up. He knew you were skinny when you started dating, surely. I highly doubt he slept with another girl because you were too skinny, this is just a BS reason he gave you to add insult to injury. Presumably he knew you were insecure about your size because you two dated. For some reason he felt like twisting the knife, he wanted to mess with your head and your self esteem. Mission accomplished I guess.
This was not about you, not about your body, not about any of that stuff. Men don't cheat becase they don't find their girlfriends attractive. 99% of the time it is much more complicated than that. Typically it is because something is wrong with the relationship OR the man himself. In this case I think he has serious problems to do and then say something like that to a girl who trusted him.
Try to move on and realize that this is his problem, not yours. Nothing is wrong with you.
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