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writes:I have recently begun dating a guy. We have a six year gap between us and at the start, before we went out, we chatted on Facebook. In our relationship at the moment, he is clearly more interested in me than me to him. During our web chats, he expresses how much he 'loves' me, 'likes' me and how 'beautiful' I am and that he would love to be spending time with me either there and then or as soon as possible. He repeats this very often during the conversation. I have told him to stop saying such remarks as they are rather forward and make me uncomfortable. A friend of mine has told me he is obsessive. But why does my admirer say these things? Is it how a normal relationship develops, or is he really 'obsessive'? Am I correct to stop him from saying these remarks? I have been out with him and it went well so want it to work out. Please help.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I don't think he's being obsessive although he could well be an obsessive person but I don't think this is enough to believe he is.
I do think though he's probably jumping abit ahead of himself and you're right to pull him back in on it especially as its making you feel uncomfortable.
I would talk to him, tell him you want things to work out between you but also want to slow things down and calm the comments about feelings abit.
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 You said "I have been out with him and it went well so I (sic) want it to work out." So my question to you is this - why are you complaining? Stop talking to your friend about this guy and focus if you "ant it to work out."
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reader, trueatheart +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Hi,
It sounds to me as though this guy is really into you and he wants you to know that. But if you don't feel the same way then you need to explain it to him. Maybe even consider ending the relationship if it doesn't feel right for you.
On the other hand, you say you have been out with him and it went well! BUT if your gut instinct is telling you there's something not quite right about him then you should go with that.
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