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writes:Hi, I just wanted to know what you think it means when my boyfriend tells a friend of his that he doesnt feel anything when he kisses me... does that mean he's not really in love with me? He had a one month affair before and apologized for it but it worries me that he keeps telling his friends that he's trying to the right thing. Are these signs that he is just hanging around because he feels guilty..he always says I've been so good to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Ask him whether he really said those things and whether he really wants to be with you or not. It may be painful, but better to find out now rather than later on when it would hurt more.
I agree it's not very nice of him to talk to his friends about it but he might, as you seem to think, find it hard to say to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): If he actually tells his friends he 'doesn't feel anything when he kisses you' and is only 'trying to do the right thing', then yes, I hate to break it to you, he's not in love with you at all and he's just settling for you until 'something better' comes along, which makes it a pretty poxy relationship. Worse than that, he's a complete prick for talking about you so disrespectfully to his friends and saying stuff he hasn't got the balls to say to your face.
He may not have said those things, however. If he has, and you know this for certain, you should dump him unless you're honestly happy to continue on those terms.
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