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writes: Just over a month I was sitting in my local pub and got talking to this guy who happened to be interested in joining a local council group which I was already part of. We talked about that and other things for an hour (even with my friend butting in and asking if I was boring him). He then walked off but came back later. I had told him I would enquire about the spare vacancy for him but to he honest just thought he was being polite about the whole thing.Two weeks later I was down the pub and I went to the bar and he said hello and said he had not received an application form or a telephone call even though he had not given me any details. I talked to him a bit more about it. Again a few weeks later I went into the pub and he asked me about how that nights meeting had gone and we chatted for a while before he told me to take the drinks to my friends.A few days later he was in his garden and acknowledged me so I decided to drop a note at his house with the telephone number of the council group so he could ring them and ask them for more details.Last night when I was out he said hello to my friend and I in the pub and then when my friend went to the toilet he came and sat by me and thanked me for my note and asked whether the council knew about him or if I had given his name to them and I said I hadn't I had just mentioned someone was interested and started chatting about the council again. Then my friend came back and said her usual (I hope she is not boring you and I told her off). He stayed chatting for a little while and then went off to chat to some other guys. He acknowledged my presence twice after this (one getting me a glass of water from behind the bar) and apparently staring in our direction (but there was a tv by us).Today I dropped another note off and said I had given his name to the council and gave him the closing date for applying if he was still interested in doing it. I have asked the council people but he has not rung in enquired at all about it.I would like to think he is being friendly but even I would not keep going up to the same person and asking questions in a pub as I would find that I am annoying them. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 March 2012):
 Yes off course you would find it strange, so would I. But it seems its the only topic he knows about to start a conversation there fore he keeps bringing it up to talk to you. Its clear that its only an excuse to get talking to you to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn answer to female reader anonymous it is not his place of employment he goes to that pub to drink just like I do. He came and started chatting to me and everytime I have gone to the bar (no law in doing that) he has started talking to me and not the other way round. As you say if he wanted to find out more he is adult enough to do that but he has kept on asking me. I have merely given him the information he needed so he didn't have to speak to me anymore.
Aunt Honesty thank you for your help advise, he is a nice guy but I have just felt it strange that he keeps coming up to me to talk to me as I wouldn't want to keep bothering someone like that with the same question each time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2012): So far it has been you seeking him out every time, dropping by his place of employment, at his home, and even going beyond the call of duty by checking with the council about him and providing him updates! All the while he could have simply asked for your number or to discuss the details over lunch or something. I would give him a chance to pursue, men enjoy that, and if he doesn't then you know how interested he is or how interested he isn't.
A warm smile is usually all the encouragement a guy needs to pursue you! A little flirting is all it takes, not labor on your part or it can come off like you are trying too hard.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (27 March 2012):
It sounds to me like he just found that this topic would get him chatting to you therefore he has used it to try and get t know you better. If you like him and think he is a nice guy then go for it and get to know him better, because from what I make from it he is interested in you and not the counselling.
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