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anonymous
writes:Is he stringing me along??theres this guy at work that has been working with us for just 4 or 5 weeks now, but he has helped out at our shop at before too! when he came to our store at i remember fancying him loads and always making excuses to go and talk to him but i just did not have the confidence to tell him how i felt then he went back to his normal shop and i forgot all about him. However a posistion became available at our shop which he applied for and got the job! the minute i saw him again all my feelings for him came flooding back! i still couldnt face telling him thinking hes only just arrived at our store n it might make him feel uncomfortable which is not what i wanted to do. Over the next days we got on really well and are now really really good mates my best mate works with us too and i had told her how i felt when we were talking about it someone else overheard and went and told him about it (whilst i was on holiday! but i found this out frm someone else b4 i got back) now the whole shop knows! at first i was really worried about going back to work but we had a big conversation about it and he told me that he was flattered n tht he thinks im a top girl at first i thought that this was his way of letting me down gently but we have talked more and more since then and he has confessed now tht he feels the same and the only reason that we are not dating yet is because he has not got the time! I dont know what to do now! i really like him and would be willing to wait for ever and a day for him if he is being serious! but could he just be saying these things because he doesnt want to hurt me? not realising that this would hurt more in the long run?Arrghh im totally confused and dont know what to do please help!22 yr old female UK
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Men are such Weird-o's.....there is no tellning what is going on in his mind and heart. I agree with Daniel LePew...I think he has good intentions, but dosen't realize that is causing more pain. All the luck to ya Dearie.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Dear 22 year old female, my opinion is that your last paragraph is the truth: he might be saying this because he doesn't realize he hurts you more in the long run.
He might be afraid of hurting a workmate.
I think the best you can do is stay your course. Don't avoid him, but don't try to run into him, either. Just do your job.
If it becomes too much for you, try to find yourself another job.
I wish you the best.
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