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writes:Ok here goes… I have been dating the owner of the company that I work for, but it has all become so complicated!!! It started just over a year ago when we were both in different relationships. He would be texting constantly, showering me with gifts, offering to take me away and we would be meeting up about 2 times a week. We both separated from our partners 8-9 months ago and have no regrets about that or from what we had done. The problem is that when he separated from his partner he seemed to want a lot more then what I could offer at that moment in time as I had just got away from an abusive relationship. I seemed to keep my distance from him and never showed my feelings.now the tables have turned... he seems to ignore me one minute and then text me saying he has fallen for me but then flirting with anyone and everyone infront of me saying he is not ready for anything yet because of where we both work and the age difference (13years) the problem is i have falen for him... is he just playing mind games? should i just walk away? AARRGGHH Plase help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): First, I am sorry you were in an abusive relationship before, that will only make this more difficult. It is perfectly natural that you would be slow to show emotion after being hurt, it is a defense measure to try to reduce the pain.
As for this guy, whether he is playing games, my guess is that he is simply unfaithful. He was in a relationship when he started showing you with attention/gifts. He should have ended it before looking for someone else. Now roles have changed, although you are not in a relationship, he is probably looking for another; and will keep you only until he finds someone.
This guy is not what you need; he will move on soon, save yourself some pain and move on now.
Since you came from an abusive relationship, into this without pause. I would suggest taking a short break from relationships, just give your heart some time to heal/work out the kinks before you start looking for someone else.
It shows your age as 18-21. 13 years is a big difference at your age IMHO. Remember how many relationships he has had, relative to you.
I don't think he is actively trying to play mind games with you, I have dealt with psychopaths; if he was one he would be a lot more slick in how he treats you. Just unfaithful.
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