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female
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30-35,
*j1234
writes:OK here's my situation. I'm mainly venting, but other points of view would be nice. I'm engaged and we have been together for a little over 2 years; we've got a house but the downside is that there's nothing in the town we live-most people make a living working at the prison, or farming. So I have accepted the fact that we will have to move to a larger city if we will ever make a decent income, which is only an hour away. He has a job making a little under 9 an hour with no benefits or possibility of promotion yet is comfortable with that. We can pay our bills with just a small amount of savings every month. I have been thinking about the future and of having children one day, so figured it would be best to get decent jobs and make our move long before we consider kids that way we can have some money saved up. But he puts it off and never follows through with applying for new jobs..I don't want this to happen for years and end up feeling like I've wasted some of my life in this indecisive stage. I figured I would start applying for jobs an hour away and if I get a job, I would give him the option to put his butt in gear or stay in this hick town. Opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): Well, every girl needs a guy who can support her and provide for her. You need to sit down with this guy and tell him you NEED to start thinking about the future and just be honest with him. If he keeps putting it off you may need to question your relationship, if you're with a guy who is quite happy doing nothing and staying where he is - when you want to leave and have kids, better jobs etc - the fact he doesn't want to talk to you about it may be a sign those things aren't important to him. In which case you need to confront him and ask if he does want thee same things as you because if he doesn't, your relationship may well break down because you're two different people wanting different, incompatiable futures. Good luck!!
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