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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Me and my guy have had a few breaks in our reletionship and i have a feeling he was invloved with somebody while we were on 1 of those breaks, he started a knew job and he was getting txts, phone calls ect and we wasnt living together at the time so i think he may have been emailing this person too, now i dont really mind to be honest if he was cos we wasnt together and he just use to come to my place to see hes kids but i feel he is hiding the truth but i would prefer if he just told me, we wasnt together so why cant he be honest with me? i asked him about this but he says im imagining things, what can i do to get the truth, im not angry about it to be honest, just curios to know. he deleted hes fb account and i think he changed email when we got bk together, why did he do that? was he hiding something from? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): For something you're not overly concerned about you're making an awfully big deal of it. If you don't mind, don't care and don't think it any of your business anyway then why insist on knowing? Especially when you're probably right. Assume that he did and leave it at that.I'd be more concerned about the 'few breaks' you two have had. Clearly neither of you are skilled at effective communication and conflict resolution. Not with each other anyway. If you two have to keep breaking up in order to get along then the future isn't promising. I suggest you take some time to reflect about what went wrong in your relationship and ways to improve it. A few sessions with a good therapist may give you some useful insights on how to make future ones more fulfilling.
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