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writes:My bf and I have been together for just shy of two years in a long distance relationship. We see each other every weekend, go on frequent trips together, vacation with our children together etc. We live 500 miles away from each other now. Back in January he told me that he loves me but he knows he cannot give me what I want long term which is a commitment. We have discussed living together a few times over the last year but he seems hesitant about it from time to time. A month ago he asked me to come stay with him over the summer with my child. I want to start a business and he said "come and stay with me, start your business here". He did not say he wanted me to move in with him but when I said I would stay the summer to get my business up and running and find somewhere for my child and I to rent after the summer he said he didnt want me to leave and how nice it would be to come home and have someone there. I am so confused about what he wants and afraid if I ask him about it that may send him into a tailspin and he will get freaked out. Could he be moving towards a commitment with this? Could he have decided that he does want to live together in the last few months? Should I just go with the flow and see where this leads??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 May 2010):
 He is asking you to stay over the summers and it could be a trial run to see how he can adept to this change in his lifestyle. If everything goes well, he may ask you to stay
I detect that he has intentions to commit to you but he is hesitant to voice it out officially.
I think you will need to go with the flow and see where it will lead.
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reader, Xtina356 +, writes (11 May 2010):
It sounds like he wants the summer to be a test run to see if things would work out between you. So the question is would it be a good idea to start a business immediately or wait to see if it works out before you make that kind of investment. He may decide you should go home at the end of the summer. But you won't know that until the end of the summer.
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