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writes:I've only been on a couple of dates with this new guy. I find him really smart, we get on well etc. Actually, he seems to be so much like me. He made an offhand comment once about scoring some "rocks" which was sort of a joke I guess but when I asked him if he was joking he said nothing and changed the subject. He's made a few other references to it in the past, too.I find it hard to believe that he would be doing drugs because he is so high functioning, he is really smart and is mostly healthy with other things in his life... and crack? It just doesn't seem to fit to be really honest. Can you do crack cocaine and be a normal functioning human being? Does he just have a really warped sense of humour?He's beginning to freak me out a little. Should I just end it now?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 June 2009):
 If his comments are meant to be jokes, then were they told as jokes?
He is beginning to freak you out. I don't thank that happens just because of some comments. Probably there is more going on. Subtle signs that you have been noticing that tell you something is wrong. And all this after just a few dates.
Trust your instincts, people cannot be function crack addicts but they can fool people into believing they are.
Ask around, get your friends opinion. What do others think. You are watching him through rose-colored glasses and still see something ain't right. Get an opinion from someone whose panties are not on fire.
Just be cautious, it might be a weird sense of humor, but you ain't laughing and that says a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Well of course you cannot justly end the relationship for a reason that you have no proof of, and haven't even confronted him over.
Is he often opting out of hanging with you? Does he often attend parties and not call you during or after? Does he sometimes not answer his phone and have no good reason for it? Does he start acting weird after hanging out for a long time and claiming that he really must go? (withdrawl) or does he just not ever allow you to soend more than a certain amount of time with him?
You really just have to ask. We can't give you a factual answer over whether or not he is a druggie. It's not fair to him and we cannot gauruntee accuracy in our answers.
Goodluck though.
~SY.
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