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writes:My girlfriend knows a guy overseas. She wants to go over there without me for 3 months. Am I being overly concerned to think 3 months is a long time or not? Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (6 April 2006):
 I agree with most answers here. The time line isn't really the most important thing. 3 days or 3 months, something COULD happen either way. The problem with 3 months is it might give two people more time to bond, leading to other things. Listen, anything could happen. You didn't give us much information to go on here.
Trust is the most important thing here. You can't control her feelings or desires. You could talk to her and express your concerns. She'll probably tell you there is nothing to worry about.
Unless this is a once in a lifetime opportunity, and you're both still young, I do find it strange she'd want to be away from you for so long. Bottom line is, she needs to respect or at least reply to your concerns but you also need to let her be free. If not she'll resent you.
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (6 April 2006):
 Is there a reason why she wants to go over there without you? For 3 months. That seems to be quite a long time just to visit someone. Is this like her childhood friend? As long as it's not just some guy she just met or something of that sort, there shouldn't be too much to worry about. I just don't understand why she don't want you to go with her? or why she has to be gone for sooooo long. But that's me. I guess you can do the rest of the people on here said and just tell her you'll miss her and hope she has fun. There's really not much more you can do about this situation.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): it's bull shit, your in trouble.
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reader, Hunny Bunny +, writes (6 April 2006):
I also think that 3 mnts is a bit long for her to be away. But on the other ahnd has she given you any reason for you not to trust her in the past. Try sitting down with her an explain to her that you will miss her and dont want her to be gone for so long. Explain to her your feeling a bit worried, be truthful. Asking will not only put your mind at rest but your girlfriend will respect your for being open with your feelings.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (6 April 2006):
 I feel that three months is a long time. However, before you begin to worry too much I would ask yourself if there is any other reason not to trust your gf. Have you talked to your g/f about this and told her how you feel and that you will miss her? Rather than suggest (possibly wrongly) that something is wrong all you have to do is simply tell her that you will miss her.
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