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anonymous
writes:I'm a single parent of two awesome boys.I'm attracted to a healthcare provider that I believe to be single. (but my children see him now.)I believe this is mutual.Instead of asking me out he offered me a job. A very very good opportunity. Should I take the job? I have had other great job offers, this one however I don't have to move out of state for this opportunity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2015): I assume that you have a job now which you will have to give up if you take his job. Now, let's say he made you the job offer with the hopes of getting into your panties. What happens if you take his job and things go badly? Most likely you will be on the street looking for a new job - is that something you could manage? To avoid that if you take the job, you must give up any romantic interest in him, do absolutely nothing to lead him on, and be confident that he will also maintain a professional relationship only. Is that possible?As this is an important decision for you, I strongly suggest that you talk to a professional employment counsellor or lawyer. Tell them very openly what you have stated here and your concerns. Ask them (1) for advice on how to handle the situation and (2) what to get in an employment contract to protect you, for example a certain amount of severance if he fires you. Then before you quit your present job, discuss such a contract with the doctor. At this point his intentions may become clear and make your decision easier.good luck.
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reader, Tottochan  +, writes (16 August 2015):
Namaste,
I think you have to decide what is more important to you - your feelings for this person, or the job he's offering you.
To be very clear, if you do take up the job offer, then you ought to throw away all your feelings for this man, because starting an office romance with a superior is not desirable, in so many ways - things could get messy, and it's best to keep professional relationships professional.
The second thing is, possibly, he might not be too serious about thinking of you as a romantic possibility. I'm not sure, but then he wouldn't have offered the job, correct?
So finally, I think that you should take the job. It seems like a great opportunity. Crushes come and crushes go, but a good job goes a long way in securing a good future for ourselves and our children.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2015): yes of course you take the job..it is a fabulous opportunity with a boss you can get on with. Dont assume it will lead to a romance but see it as a lifeboosting chance to get on your feet financially.
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