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anonymous
writes:i met someone and we both had sparks at first site. we havent gotten anywhere in relationship i think because i turned him off by coming on to strong. He says that he was with someone whom he really cared for whom just recently broke it off with him abruptly and he needs time to get his mind right i dont believe him i think i turned him off. I really want him what do i do walk away or is there a way to fix this? is there anything i cant do?
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reader, Zanie +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Well you definitely got over anxious by jumping in. This guy wasn't ready to move onto another relationship. You need to clarify what's going on?
Sometimes you just have to get it out in the open, otherwise you'll just drive yourself crazy guessing. Sit down and talk to him. Tell him you really care about him and you want to see him but you feel maybe he is having second thoughts. If he tells you he is having second thoughts, it may be best just to back off. Maybe you two could just date on occasion, and give him the time to get over the past gf. Then if he shows you more interest in time, then of course, date more heavily and maybe start a relationship.
I think he will appreciate you giving him the time, and if you stay in touch, maybe when he's ready...you could have something special.
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reader, jay-man +, writes (27 May 2010):
 do you know how long he was with the other girl? if they were together for a while then, he does need time to get his head straight. the only thing you can do is give him some space and express to him that you are there for him if he needs anything. it kinda sounds like (if the break-up between him and the other girl was recent)he jumped into the rs with you to get over her. basically rebound gf. what you need to be careful with is not getting to involved with someone fresh out of a rs its very possible he still loves her and if so he will go back to her.
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