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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm in a confusing situation. My bf and I have lived together for 3. 1/2 years out of our 4 and a half year relationship. I've been upset lately because our talks about getting married are discouraging. I know u aren't supposed to compare your relationship against other peoples but I am feeling insecure because his brother has been married before us. He and his wife were together for a short time before getting married. Now I found out his younger sister is pregnant and engaged to her new boyfriend. I am embarrased and unhopeful about our relationship. We have been together longer than both of his siblings. What should be my next move? I don't think I can handle family events with this insecurity especially when people are gloating. Help!
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reader, amazingk  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 You don't get married because "everybody's doing it". You get married when the two of you want to and the time is right. With the divorce rate being where it is these days, I hope you realize there is no hurry. Those who got married despite not being together longer than you and your boyfriend aren't showing that their love is stronger than the love that's shared in your relationship. In fact, it may end up proving to be sheer foolishness on their part down the road. Enjoy the relationship you're in, if it's good, for what it is and let the rest take care of itself down the road when the time is right.
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