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writes:Do anyone of you feel guilty for not informing your ex's new girlfriend about his cheating past?My ex cheated on me to be with her. He also has a history of cheating on other ex girlfriends.It has been more than a year since we broke up and our common friends said the two of them had gotten an apartment together. The construction is still on going n will only be completed in a year's time. They are also sure that he is cheating on her with numerous one night stand partners.I feel a bit guilty about it. Do I need to warn her or at least her sister about it so that her sister will keep an eye on him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): I would bet his current girlfriend will not heed your advice when she is with him. She will have to get burned herself before she will believe anyone telling her the fire is hot.
And I would bet you did the same thing when you were with him too. Am I right? You also had the tip-offs all along but you didn't wanna see them until you got burned too?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 August 2010):
I also have to say it's best to stay out of it. Not because he has a history of cheating, but because it would make you appear more like a bit of an obsessed ex or something. The new girlfriend will be aware of his cheating. She still took him on, and will believe everything he says. That's what people do. So if you go in and say he's a cheat, she'll just say you're a liar. Let her find out. You stay out and get on with your own life. You don't need to feel guilty for others' mistakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Hmm...I can understand you wanting to tell his girlfriend what he was like in the past, and what you have heard from other people. But I think it would be best to stay out of it and not get involved. It could all backfire horribly if you did. Although he has a history of cheating, he may have changed. And although your friends say he is cheating on his girlfriend with other people, nobody really knows that for sure. And even if it is true, I still don't think it is your place to say anything. I would suggest just trying to forget about him, and leave him and his girlfriend to their lives while you get on with yours. I know you might feel a bit uneasy about saying nothing, but in the long run I think it will be better for you. I just don't think it would be a good idea to get involved.
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