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writes:I've seen this girl now 2 times, and both dates we have made a tremendous connection. Neither of us have ever felt such passion towards another person so quickly and its really scaring both of us. We have both said that it feels like we have been together for so much longer than just 2 dates and that we have never felt this kind of emotion towards another so quickly. our second date last night was euphoric and I've never felt so comfortable with someone. She told me that the things i say to her are the things that shes always wanted a guy to say to her. She calls me sweet and tells me that she feels like shes on drugs when shes with me because i make her feel so amazing. We have not had sex, although this did get slighty physical last night and there was some touching going on. she texted me this morning and said that she thinks we are moving too fast and I told her that i agree that the touching was probably too fast, but other than that i think we are amazing together and that if she wants to move slower i will move slower. she told me that she was going to email meshe emailed me and told me this"i've been thinking about this a lot last nite and i think we should steer this in a different direction. I do enjoy making out with u, but should it ever escalate to sex? I don't think so bc once u throw that in the mix, the possibility of friendship is dead. and i'd rather have u in my life longterm bc we click sooo well, to the point of creepiness. what do u think?"i replied back "I've been thinking about this too, and I agree that we do need to slow things down abit, but only because i really value you and you really are special to me. I agree that sex should not be on our agenda right now and should not happen anytime soon, but someday when the time is right I do want it to happen, but when we're both ready for it. Talking and joking about it is whatever, it just shows how comfortable we are with one another. I have been searching high and low for that one girl who just gets me, and in the past i always thought maybe im being too picky and I should just settle, but then you came along and I thought, wow it was all worth it I don't think I could ever be just friends with you. I want to be your man, and treat you the way you deserve to be treated and make you happier than anyone has ever made you. I want to take you places and make memories with you. I honestly believe that people search their whole lives for something similar to what we've found with each other, and although our passion is a little scary, i think its just because neither of us have really had anything like this... they say passion makes the best relationships. I am who I am, and you are who you are, nothing is going to change that and our passion will not die. I'm not just looking for a partner, I'm looking for a partner who will also be my best friend, and I really think you could be that person. I really want to keep going with you, but if that means slowing down then thats absolutely fine. I will do what i need to, to make you mine. I know you think that once we have sex the possibility of just being friends is dead, but i believe that we are already past the point of just being friends. I honestly can't imagine seeing you with anyone else, my stomach would turn in knots.. and I could never just sit beside you without being able to hold your hand or kiss you on the lips. Could you imagine that with me and honestly feel nothing? I know we've only been on two dates, and its scary how much I like you already and I know thats what you're feeling too, but we need to accept our feelings and realize that this is rare occurance. I really do want to be with you, and I hope that you still want to be with me. This is very hard for me to do over email/text, and I think we really owe it to each other to talk this out in person. I need to see your eyes and hear your voice."Im going to see her tonight to get some coffee and talk about this face to face, but im seriously deathly scared of loosing this girl. It really is scary to me how much i like her already, and I'm sure that she is feeling the same exact way.has anyone out there ever had such a passionate relationship so quickly? and did it work? Shes told me that shes scared that something this passionate is going to end just as abruptly.please advice! what am i supposed to say to her tonight? I really dont want to loose this girl, she really could be "the one"....
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Yes, two years ago a met a guy on a dating site.
We clicked instantly, I could talk to him like i've never been able to talk to anyone before. At the end of the first date I knew that I never wanted him out of my life.
2nd "date" I stayed at his house for the weekend which included a lot of sex and talking. Some may say its too soon, and I definitely think it can be with certain people but it didn't feel like we had only met just once before.
We started living together about a month later.
2 years down the line we are very happy and are planning on moving to Sydney next year and have babies in the not too distant future :-)
Why are you holding back your feelings? If you feel this strongly about each other and are sexually attracted to each other then go with it!
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