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writes:ive fallen in love with my fwb but i can,t tell him as i know he doesnt feel the same what do i do i can,t stop seeing him it will hurt to much thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2011): I'm in the same situation. The sex with this woman is to good to miss out on, as we have a deep connection so not seeing her at all is not an option.
Now, I can only give guy tips, not sure if they work for women. But maybe they give you a basic idea.
So here are a few things I did to conquer this feeling: started to date several other women, going out much, making new friends, redocorated my appartment, started to work out, planning to start my own business, started DJing again which I gave up on 2 years ago. And it all feels great! I feel like a new person.
Basically I try to improve myself and my life on every level in the hope to raise my "market price" which hopefully results in not being interested in this woman anymore. I try to play in a higher league. It already helped a little bit. Good luck getting over him, you can do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2011): If you know for certain that he does not feel the same you will need to stop sleeping with him. The sooner you do it the quicker you can get over him and move on.
The longer you continue this situation you will only fall more in love with this guy. So delete him from your life.
I know that sounds drastic but its the only way you can move on and you need to move on if you are falling for him and he does not feel the same. You need to protect yourself from being hurt, thats your responsibility to yourself.
You are only going to get even more down in yourself if you continue this situation and loose your confidence, whereas if you end it now it will only hurt for awhile and then you can move on.
Good Luck.x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 and yet staying with him will hurt too...
which will hurt worse?
which will hurt longer?
is there any chance you can tell him?
i thought my FWB did not feel the same about me... turned out he did... and we are together now (it's a rarity so don't hold your breath)
but you either need to leave or tell him... a lie of omission is still a lie
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (12 August 2011):
 If you don't tell him and keep seeing him, you're just prolonging the inevitable hurt.
This is a no-win situation for you.
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