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writes:I'm 14 years old and a freshman in highschool. My boyfriend of almost two months is 18 and he's is a senior. I've had the biggest school girl crush on him since the beginning of the year. One day, I was eating lunch alone and he walked up to me and say next to me. That's where our whole "thing" started. Never have I EVER had such strong feelings for a guy before. I'm only young and I understand that I dont know what love is. Which is right! I really don't know what love is. And I like it that way. I know he feels the same way about me too. I'm good friends with his bestfriend's and he tells me all the time about how all he ever does is talk about me. The perfect relationship, right? Well, in 6 months he's leaving to go into the Marine's. I really don't like to think about it because whenever I do i just wanna cry. People keep telling me to just let him go but I can't do it! Maybe after a while of him leaving I'll get over him but I just don't want to and even thinking about it makes me want to throw up! I need to figure out what I should do before it's too late. Is it worth the wait?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): You know, realistically, he is in the military and is in harm's way. Yet, right now, you are pretty young. I would say don't just give up on him and dismiss him, but I would be realistic. The military changes a lot of guys (and now gals). The chances are good that you will slowly let him go. There will be other guys for you. You don't want to hear war stories. You want to be with someone near your own age and do things that young people do. The chances are that he will face a dose of reality being in the Marines and your not be around. Without hurting him, maybe you ought to let him go. After all, you are not married to him. Let him go and get on with your life.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 April 2012):
 Like Youwish stated, you have no choice in the matter. He's enlisting whether you like it or not.
Unfortunately, it's not worth waiting for him..because you ARE young and being a military girlfriend (I'm an Armywife) is hard work. It's long distance relationship for the next 4 years. Is that something you want to wait around for? No. I also doubt he'll wait around either since military men are rather promiscuous. That uniform is a big turn on for some women.
Sorry to come across as harsh, but it's the truth.
Let go of him emotionally and in time you'll get over it.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 April 2012):
 Actually, it's not your decision to make. Whether you emotionally let him go, or you try to hang onto him, he's going.
You're 14 and he's 18. There's too much of an age gap at this point in your life, and you're going to experience such new things that at 18 years old yourself, you won't even remember what you felt like at age 14.
You can love him, and you can keep him in your memories and think fondly of him forever, but you can't hold onto him. Best to let him go now and feel the pain of separation, leaving both of you completely free to walk your own separate paths.
If in some years' time, your paths bring you back together, then so be it. But if it doesn't, you won't feel the slow pain of his (and yours) emotionally pulling away and apart.
Best to keep what you have GOOD and part now, rather than try and hold on and get really hurt.
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