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writes:So, im im still a teen, and i tend to only fall for older guys. k im 16, and a perfects age to me would be 17 to 23. i always fall for older men, and obviously they all eventually come to the conclusion that im too young, but it always takes time for them to decide because i definitley do not look 16. 18 at least. i am so tired of getting my heart broken, just because of age. it doesnt matter if you marry someone 5 years older so why does it have to matter now.what do i do? im so lonely, i cant stand the maturity of boys these days.help?!
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reader, westbahnhof  +, writes (3 April 2009):
honey, take it from an older sister here.. who said that age matters? one advise here: its not the age in your life, its the life in your age. you are an early starter.darling, seek the man whom you feel yourself with, and trust me age doesnt count so long as there is love, and so long as you chose it yourself.Now i was like you when i was your age, still am.. know why? its because women mature way before men do,, and therefore if you are 16 you are equivalent to a 26 year old guy thinking or even a 30 year old.Now if you find that age is a problem... try proving yourself older than your age.. wanna know how? NEVER LIE OR BE ASHAMED OF YOUR AGE.. ok you wanna hide it in the beginning, thats ok till you prove yourself mature..talk sense, use your head before using your tongue, think before you talk.. and try to be mature, simply be yourself..if a man feels you are mature enough and likes you, he will not bother about your age..the only thing you have to think of is future... there are certain things you must know about older men.. i thought it was ok when i was 16...but then after many many relationships with older men, i realised that older men have a special threshold.. they lose patience, many things you might be interested in will not really be part of their interest, and then with time (in case of marriage) your sexual needs will not be fullfilled.. ofcourse that depends on which age range you get attracted to, you havent mentioned you know..,i suggest,that if you are 16 you can go for a guy in the age range between 16 to 36. then again no matter how mature you are i know you will not be able to cope with a 36 year old guy.. unless you were 25 and he is 45 thats different.my advise, dont go beyond 20 years of age gap.. 20 years of age difference is acceptable..BUT... ONE THING YOU MUST KNOW, ALL I SAID ABOVE IS NOT FOR YOUR AGE HONEY...,think of serious commitments with these ages when you are a bit older, say above 22 or 23 as some older men take advantage of young girls. meanwhile protect yourself from older men, some could be harmful now that you are 16.think of all i mentioned above when you are in your 20s. and then you can think of being with an older person all you want.you are underage, focus on your education and preparing yourself to that stage when you are all ready to meet your soul mate.. prepare yourself educationally, and try to gather more experience in life.. there is no harm in going out with guys your age meanwhile, try to explore them and know how young boys think so you can later analyse how older men think.darling, what you want is not harmful, infact acceptable, and your way of thinking is not wrong, infact i encourage you, but not now ,not for a girl in your age.. you are 16, all emotional, and older men can use your feelings.one more thing, i consider you lucky that guys pull away once they realise how old you are, others could have used you honey..Think of what i said to you, im sure you are mature enough to analise it :)wish you all the best :) take care
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reader, say_anything  +, writes (3 April 2009):
 i know how you feel about older boys. i was (and to be honest, still am!) attracted to those a few years ahead of me. this could be purely because in your teens girls tend to mature earlier than boys of the same age, so you could be seeking someone more on your level emotionally, or could just be a personal preference. i certainly understand the attraction, but the problem here is that you are very, very young now, and obviously once you are 18, 19, 20, the few years' age difference will not seem so big. it's just that you are only just the age of consent which can pose a problem. it is important not to mislead anyone over your age, and to be upfront about it, especially if like you say you look a little older. give it a few more years and i am sure you will find a perfect man, older or not, and be very happy. my parents met when my mother was only a year older than you (and my father in his mid-twenties) and they have three children now and a very happy, strong and content marriage.good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 April 2009):
When you say "It takes them a while to decide...." do you actually mean it takes them a while to find out your real age?
If that is the case then you may find it's the fact you are lying to them that's putting them off.
Other than that you just have to wait. Older guys are great but at your age when you are so close to being able to put them on the sex offenders register, a couple of years can make a big difference.
You don't NEED a boyfriend so just carry on going out and having fun and you'll find someone.
Good Luck!! xx
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