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anonymous
writes:My long-distance ex gf (25) and I have been friends for over a year (dated for 5 months) I cared for her deeply but the distance was too much and altough we talked of moving in together, she was not ready for that life changing decision. We have continued to stay friends, and somewhat recently, she has started to see someone locally. I have dated others too (we have been broken up for 5 months). We rarely talk about our "personal lives" as far as who we are dating, etc bc we both still care for each other. We would usually only communicate during the day while we were both at work. Recently, my ex and I have been talking outside of work on the phone, and our txt messaging keeps increasing. My ex is going on a business trip at the end of the month and has asked me to come and stay with her during this trip all weekend. She said that she is still very attracted to me, still has feelings for me and wants another opportunity to be with me intimately. She said that she is not going to hold back her feelings and is very scared yet excited about what effect it will have on her. The crazy part is, Im pretty sure she is still seeing someone locally. Although I would love to meet with her and rekindle our relationship and entertain getting back together with her, Im also torn that it will be just a fling to her, and the thought of her having sex with her bf, then getting on a plane to have sex with me is unpleasant. I want the experience and I dont want to pass up on the chance to get back with the one I love. Our chemistry, etc is amazing. I know our weekend would be amazing. I wish she would break it off with her bf before we got together so I wouldnt feel like the "other" guy. Ironically, we will also be in the same town on business in Nov. Im getting the impression she wants to check her feelings for me but also wants her safety-net bf locally to still be there. Does she want to get back together? What should I do?
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