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writes:me n my girlfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years. we were both very committed to each other n this was our first relationship. we planned to spend the rest of our lives togehter. but like every other couple, we had fights. i guess in my own fault, there were times i didnt do the right things like emotionally supporting her ALL THE TIME, though i did some of the times. i didnt do the romantic surprises but i tried once every now n then. so just about a month ago, she finally decided to break it off. it was a shock seeing as how much we loved each other. i begged her not to but she wanted to end it. so i decided to give her space during the month of seperation. during that time, she texted me and would call me occasionally. i thought we were going to get back toegher too. but then she finally decides to tell me she wants to be just friends. she doesnt feel anything for me at all and if i dont want to be her "bff" she is left with no other choice but hating me. she tells me she doesnt want to lose me as a friend but iwant more than just friends. i want to be the love of her life again. i understand wat i did wrong n i know wat she needed in teh relationship.im willing to change for her. i already did. im willing to do anything for her but she wants nothing to do with me other than my friendship.i fear that if i do try being friends, ill lose her n be stuck in the friends zone. wat can i do to win her back? i know the sayin thereare other fish in teh sea, but honestly i want my first love to be my only love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): its not that ive become extremely attached to her. she was always more attached to the relationship than i was. she would always call me for every little problem whether it was her parents, school, or just because she missed me. n i guess it kinda wore me down a bit which lead me to not do the things i should be doing to keep the relationship romantic. n i know because of that she fell out of love. right now, she wants to be friends and im trying my best to be her friend. i also told her when we were talking about finally moving on that if i wasnt going to be focusing on her, i needed to focus on someone else. she then texted me aroudn 1:30 am, 1 hour after our conversation asking me if i had already found someone else to focus on seeing as how i said that phrase. i kinda exaggerate it by telling her that "i'm not sure. possibly. its weird how things awlays turn out. but u shoudl do watever it is that makes you happy. smile u dork." she replies throughout the day asking if i would tell her who it is, and that im her friend now n that i should tell her.
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reader, cupidguy +, writes (13 July 2008):
Maybe you've become to attached to her. If so, this can be kind of creepy, and you forced her to take the action she did.Tell her you both will always be friends, like you have for the last 2 1/2years (don't change from this line). It will be rough, but you need to adjust to your new life style: being single.Plan to spend a little extra time on homework, with friends, keep your social circle rotating, enjoy it, and the sting from the break up won't be as bad, and when you two do come in contact again, you'll be best of friends and will carry on like you did before.I made the mistake once with a girl I really liked. I had gotten mad at her and she wanted us to have time apart. As hard headed as I was (am), I ended up with a new girlfriend. The next time I ran into her, she was furious, and said I didn't mean we wouldn't be back together again. I responded with "if we needed to separate, then it only says we could working it out with communication, so there was no reason to return to what we had and didn't work". Yes I was still mad, still loved her, but I guess my pride and inability to avoid what happened that caused the break up still was with me. We were about your age to. Fresh in the relationship scene, knowing little to nothing. Don't make the same mistake I did, remain friends.
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reader, daniellexxxx  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 You have to let her go hun i know it's hard but shes made it clear all she wants is friendship and if you try to win her round she may just want nothing to do with you at all, And you dont really want that be friends with her and see how that goes, you never know she may begin to love you again and be with you.
Good luck. x
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