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writes:Okay.. So I finally broke up with the jerk and I'm with this new guy.. Have been for about 3 months now.. Our sex is fantastic but I don't feel like I'm doing enough.. We've done a lot of things that I have never done before.. Like choking and being pretty aggressive which, I've recently learned, is a HUGE turn on for me :) but he concentrates so hard during sex and I've told him so many times to have fun (he's been with a lot of other women - but he is clean i made him get checked because he's been with a lot of strippers haha) but that also poses a problem. I just physically cannot do what those crazy ladies can. And for some weird reason I'm uncomfortable giving head. Hmmm... He hasn't complained about anything but I don't want him to have to. Because for the first time in 2 years I've actually enjoyed sex with my partner... Of all these topics that could use some suggestions and/or advice my biggest one is....I'm starting to feel more comfortable with him and would like to introduce my freaky side I haven't used in 2 years to him.. But with my good girl/kinda shy attitude I'm afraid it will freak him out lol so can anyone give me advice on how to gradually introduce that side to him? Or should i just dive in? Maybe the newness of it will be exciting to him, I'm not sure lol Help me out guys! :)Thanks
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reader, 78ta09 +, writes (14 September 2009):
78ta09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question well what i meant by two years is i was with my ex for two years.. he kinda treated me bad and i wasnt happy so no way was i gonna have sex with him. lol hed beg for it and id eventually give in or if we had a good day with minimal fighting and such.. this new guy ive been with for 3 months.. im happier with him than ive been in my entire life!:) and thank you for your input guys:) and the stripper thing, i mean yeah it bothers me. but i dont see him going back into that scene. it was trouble for him..and he makes it clear that he doesnt want to hurt his family or close friends like that ever again.. these answers have probably been the most helpful that ive ever recieved on here.. thank you, again. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): I reckon just dive straight into it. I find that guys love it, especially when you seem really good at first, then turn bad after you've been with him for a while, like he's the reason you've suddenly discovered this bad side. Set yourself free - 2 years is a long time to bottle things up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): well you don't tell what is your freaky side. yet you say you two have already done alot of things.
I lived some early years of my students life in an apartment with some strippers and I can swear strippers are the prudest and coldest chicks you can get. don't be fooled by all those bumps and grinds on stage.
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