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writes:Me and my ex recently got back together. We were togehter for 2 years and had been apart for around 9 months. THose 9 months were very dramatic, with him breaking up with me, me wanting him back, and then him wanting me back afterwards when I met someone new. In the end, I broke it up with the new guy and came back to him.It has been very rocky ever since we have been back together. For me, it feels like I need to be"swept away under my feet" again in order to regain that spark, but he doesnt agree. He has an extrmely busy schedule now,and rarely has time for me. I see him aorund 3 hours week. As well, his parents do not like me and nags at him to break up with me. We are both 22, live at home, and live around an hour apart. I feel that 3 hours a week is just not enough for me, and that being "too busy" is just an excuse. Am I being too needy for wanting to spend more time with him? I am very unhappy and very lonely. What should I do?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 You are like a plant that has not enough sunlight and you are wilting and dying.
If you find this condition unacceptable then you need to find another place where the sun shines every day.
Try to convey your feelings to him and if he is always busy, then what's the point of this relationship?
Can you accept this situation and how long can you tolerate?
You will have to think of your own happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): There is no way that you are being needy. Why does his parents not like you? Often we hark back to the things in the past that we 'thought' were ok. In actual fact they were crap and that is why we got away from them in the first place. I always say that it is never a good idea to go back and right now that is not what you want to hear. Have a chat with him and tell him that it is totally unacceptable to only see each other for 3 hours per week. What is he exactly 'too busy' doing? I would want explanations, if the answers come back and you dont like them, why not move on and meet someone who want to commit 100% to you. Life is much too short to put up with any crap in it.
take care
xx
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