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writes:I'm trying with my whole mind and soul to focus on learning and growing. I'm trying to let all the luxuries go and lead a simple life to pursue my dream.But I wonder why this has suddenly affected my mental health. I'm a lot grumpy. I lose my temper really fast. Uncleanliness, lethargy turns me off when I'm bein so active at things. I scold my friends whom I live with really bad, but they've been generous enough to tolerate me until now. I can't keep checking their patience.I don't enjoy movies any more, no music entices me, girls fail to catch my attention (compared to my previous self, I'd at least have a look at them). I only feel like stressing myself against the time I'd wasted all these years. I love company, but I avoid it when I find they're wasting time serving their senses.Its been a few weeks this way. The results are evident. I can see myself getting good at the things I planned to do. Really good as people point out. But I want to change the side effects. I know there's a fault in my execution. I don't have a guide to show me through; only certain scripts and books. I'm an atheist. But I want to believe in good. Any sort of help is appreciated.Regards
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 February 2012):
 thanks for the update. glad to hear it's going well.
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reader, lovingnerd +, writes (6 February 2012):
lovingnerd is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a lot my dear Aunts.
I've noticed for a while that most thoughtful answers almost always come from women; that most top rated aunts are all female.
Regarding my status, I'm doing well. I'm getting help from my professional course teacher. She's guiding me through communication skills to help me do with with folks around.
I've been reading and have noticed that I all of a sudden went really strict on myself. Things should have went rather gradually. I fear that since it just may never reach.
So I believe I'm back to what I was then. Hoping they'd get better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): I dont quite understand what this is in aid of. I thought at 1st you were on a religious path but you say you are atheist.
It is not a bad or unusual way of thinking: to remove yourself from the material world (I havent btw but I am mindful of others and the state of our world)Perhaps if you sought support/knowledge from an organisation or religion then you would se others have done this before you.You dont have to join that religion, just read up on that way of life and take notes (I have some Krishna principles, some Muslim principles, some Christian principles myself)
You may be a little depressed, seek some help, talking is a good one.Good luck on your journey,Im interested in knowing how u are lately, reply on here? add to the answers section?
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reader, Radhika Arora +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Hey! I think I know the reason of your being so "grumpy" and acting rudely with friends. You have studied a lot and seriously you need a break. Maybe you are spending most of the time studying and concentrating on "learning and growing up" that you forgot what are you. You are focusing more on what you want to be than what you are. You want to leave behind all the luxuries, right? But the fact is that you can't leave without them.
These are the reason for the clumsiness of your mind. This is why you find your friends annoying and wasting your time. They just spent time with you and you find it a waste. You can't tolerate your friends, how can a girl catch your attention? Everything is appearing different to you now. Movies seem to be a waste of your "precious" time and no music can entice you until your mind is clear.
Your results are evident, that's good. You got what you wanted. But you NEED a break from all these. Study hard, but take some respite and spend time with friends too. This makes your mind quite happy and satisfied and also refreshes your mind. Try this once and you will know that it helps in better concentration.
As you said, no guide is there for you. So what? It makes you independent. Make your own routine. Follow it. If you have a problem with your lessons, ask your teachers to help you out. You may not need tutorial classes.
Lastly, if you are an atheist, then its your own believe. YOU have to believe in God. No one can help you to do it. Read some religious books and gather the idea of it. Then it may be easier for you.
I hope I helped you a little. My best wishes are with you. Good luck!
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reader, Radhika Arora +, writes (1 February 2012):
Hey! I think I know the reason of your being so "grumpy" and acting rudely with friends. You have studied a lot and seriously you need a break. Maybe you are spending most of the time studying and concentrating on "learning and growing up" that you forgot what are you. You are focusing more on what you want to be than what you are. You want to leave behind all the luxuries, right? But the fact is that you can't leave without them.
These are the reason for the clumsiness of your mind. This is why you find your friends annoying and wasting your time. They just spent time with you and you find it a waste. You can't tolerate your friends, how can a girl catch your attention? Everything is appearing different to you now. Movies seem to be a waste of your "precious" time and no music can entice you until your mind is clear.
Your results are evident, that's good. You got what you wanted. But you NEED a break from all these. Study hard, but take some respite and spend time with friends too. This makes your mind quite happy and satisfied and also refreshes your mind. Try this once and you will know that it helps in better concentration.
As you said, no guide is there for you. So what? It makes you independent. Make your own routine. Follow it. If you have a problem with your lessons, ask your teachers to help you out. You may not need tutorial classes.
Lastly, if you are an atheist, then its your own believe. YOU have to believe in God. No one can help you to do it. Read some religious books and gather the idea of it. Then it may be easier for you.
I hope I helped you a little. My best wishes are with you. Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2012):
“I’m a lot grumpy”
“I lose my temper really fast”
“I don’t enjoy movies”
“no music entices me”
“girls fail to catch my attention”
“company…I avoid it”
Sounds to me like this “self improvement” plan has led you to depression. I suggest you seek professional advice to determine if you require treatment.
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