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writes:Over the last few years i have been atractted but now i have make up my mind that am a lesbian i know people say how can a 15 year old say she is a lesbian but i have totally no intrest in boys what so ever.The problem is that am too scared too tell anyone so how can i get a girlfriend, because the kids at school really wouldnt understand like boys in my class they would take the piss out of me all i want is a girlfriend that would really make me so much happier because i dont want to have a relationship with a guy someone please help, where can i find a girlfriend and how can you spot if someone is one :( please help? Thanks x
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reader, Cyanide Insanity  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 I just went through the same thing! In seventh grade, I really thought about my sexuality after joining our school's gsa. (gay straight alliance) i thought: "you know... sure, i've kissed boys. i've kissed girls! but which one got me turned on?" as you may have guessed, i like girls. ok. telling the whole school, or someone who is a blabber mouth isn't the best idea. tell close friends. if they don't except you, just say it's who you are. when you tell your parents: first, try to find out their views on homosexuality. ask questions, like; "do think gays should have the right to get married?" most likely, if they answer with "no, they should go to hell" coming out won't be easy. all of my friends supported me, but there are still lots of people who hate me for it. but it really brings a big weight off of your chest after you tell people! so, my suggestion; have a best friend to support you. you may even want them to be there when you tell your parents. befriend other gays. and as for bullying, stand up for yourself! i hope this was helpful, and if you need any more help, i can tell you more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): First of all you don't have to make it a "thing" to tell people that you are a lesbian...its your business and you should not have to defend yourself to anyone.
What you are looking for is true love and whether you are a lesbian or not, whether people know or not, it will be hard to find. I'm, saying that if you want something special, it will find you or you will just get close to someone over time, and something good will happen.
Don't feel desperate or be stressed from your situation. Just try to go with the flow and be relaxed. Keep a positive attitude, but most importantly just be yourself.
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reader, Honey Sweet +, writes (11 April 2010):
 you should be scared x
Obviously its pretty personal but men will find you very intresting x
only tell people that are very close to you and you defintly make sure that they are trustworthy x
Go to gay clubs or really try hard to find a girl x
because most of the time it justs happens x
hope this helps x
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reader, empop +, writes (11 April 2010):
15 is not to young to be a lesbian at all! Many homosexual people say they've known for nearly their entire lives, and many straight kids start dating younger than 15.If you're not in a community where you'd feel comfortable telling people you're a lesbian, then don't do it. At some point you'll need to come out to the people you love, but do it whenever you're ready.As for meeting people, when you're 18 you can start using dating sites if you want, or going to clubs that cater to lesbians, but you're probably still too young for that (I know - it sucks.) In the meantime, why don't you look for a gay or lesbian support group (mod - edit) in your area? Even if you don't find someone to be your girlfriend, it would be good to make some sympathetic friends you could be yourself around.
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