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writes:Hi. I have been talkn to this guy for 5 years know. We started off as good friends. In the beginning, about 3 years ago, he had a friend but she stayed out of town. Now its been like 1 year since he ''broke it off'' now this year which makes 5, he gives me some excuse like he doesn't want to jump back into a relationship after being in one with her for 7 years. I asked him what he think I am suppose to do. Just sit around and wait for him to get it together. I understand where he is coming from but what about me? What am I suppose to do. I love him dearly and I want to b with him. But I am 25. I am ready to settle down or @ least head that way with some1. I'm tired of waiting on him though. Everyone says good things conme to those who wait but I'm tired of waiting. I wana give up on him and find some1 else. What should I do? Please help!!!!! Sincerely, Frustrated Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): Dump him. Forget him. The second he realizes what a treasure he's lost, he'll come running back. If he doesn't - who needs him. There are a million better options for you.
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reader, Guru1  +, writes (10 April 2008):
Frustrated,
I think it's sometimes hard to hear what a person we care about is saying but we must so we can grow in ourselves and our relationships. He's been in a relationship for a long time and wants some down time. If you can't wait don't, because I'm guessing he probably doesn't know what he wants right now. You don't want a relationship with some you've pressued into being with you do you? You are only 25 and yes YOU want to settle down, he doesn't right now. Maybe think about moving on or spending some time on yourself to figure what you want. Whats the hurray, you've got lots of time
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reader, yoginipirate +, writes (10 April 2008):
 You already said it. You want to give up on him and find someone else. Do that. He's been stringing you along. He's probably very fond of you or having you coming after him strokes his ego. You can find something better than 5 years of chasing someone who doesn't want to be caught. If he wanted to be with you, he would have already arranged for an in-town romance if he could manage one out of town. Move on.
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (10 April 2008):
I think he's not ready he might have told you things just to keep you around so that way he wouldn't lose you. But you shouldn't wait around just meet new people and hang out with friends he will come around but don't wait cause he may just wanna be single right now. Its selfish of him to do this but he's a man! And wants what he wants!
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