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writes:Hello everyone :)My problem sounds a little stupid but i would really appreciate your guys help! Basically i work at in retail and recently ive been very tired and depressed i usually can block this out but its got worse its effected my sales i just what out of my job but i have no qualifications or anything and regardless im just not motivated i just cant talk myself into being motivated how could i get motivated how could i improve my sales and just get out of this mindframe of being so tired and sad and just bluh going day by day
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 February 2015):
 I totally agree that the very first thing you need is a complete medical work up including discussing clinical depression and it's treatment.
AFTER medical treatment and perhaps some counseling to determine if your sadness is really depression and if it is once it's properly treated, you can then start doing the hard work of figuring out what you want to be when you grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2015): Depression can cause you to feel extremely tired and VERY demotivated.Go to your doctor straight away and ask for counselling. Be very polite but insistent about this, because some doctors will try to 'dismiss' your request - others won't and will take you seriously, but not all of them do.Another possibility is that you may want to try anti-depressants either with or without a course of counselling. Again, it might be about finding a kind doctor who is willing to listen to you and to take your needs seriously. A counsellor will help you to understand some of the reasons for your depression. But usually when anyone goes to counselling it can involve making some changes to your life to make it better.Regular exercise usually helps A LOT with depression; even doing five minutes of stretching exercises every morning will help - and sometimes this can feel impossible because depression is often worse in the morning - but it honestly is worth it. One trick is to get out your watch or put the timer on your phone for five minutes and to watch the seconds tick by as you exercise. Think of this as you wearing away at your depression, a little every day, and replacing it with strength and positive energy. Shortly after you do this little burst of exercise, your body should respond and you will usually feel even a little bit better, even if it's just for a couple of hours. If you can keep building into this routine you will soon find that your body starts to feel really good all day, and this can send very positive signals to your brain, so you feel better all round. In combination with counselling and/or anti-depressants, this can be great.Another thing that counsellors often advise on is healthy eating. If you have a computer or access to the internet, go online and you will find loads of advice about foods that can help you to have more energy and beat depression. It takes time to change, and you will probably always crave some junk foods, but it really does help things over time.Finally, remember that you are working in a difficult job and the fact that you are holding down a job whilst feeling so crappy is a testament to your strength, not your weakness. People who have not suffered from depression have no idea of the psychological effort it takes just to do 'normal' things. So the fact you have a job at all is really, really good. Remember also that you are very young, and if you can sort out your depression and energy levels, you won't always be in this kind of work. When you start to feel a bit better, you can slowly and surely include things in your life that stimulate your brain more than your job currently does; an evening class or course, or an interesting and absorbing hobby - especially in a group - will help to activate your brain, sending positive signals.Possibly the hardest thing to do when depressed is to keep finding the motivation to put good things in place in your life and to take care of yourself. It helps if you can see yourself as you would see a really good friend that you love and care for. Talk to that friend encouragingly and gently and sometimes if needed you can be a little firm. But you surely wouldn't be nasty to a friend and criticise them and make them feel worse would you? So praise yourself just for the fact that you are getting up and out of bed and dressed each day and turning up for your job. Praise yourself for the fact that you reached out to people on this site to help you. This is what you'd do for a friend, so do it for you and don't ever feel guilty about doing so; unless you take care of yourself, you can't hope to be able to take care of others as you would like to, so really you are doing everyone a favour by taking action. Remember this when you are finding it hard to motivate yourself. Good luck!
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (16 February 2015):
Hey, sorry to hear this, but by the looks of your age, you are quite young and finding your way in life. Could you go back to college and study somthing that interests you maybe? If I were you, I would write a list of things that are bothering you and go speak to someone.
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