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writes:im losing my mind at the moment i fallen for this guy that im dating but there a few problems he has a gf that he claims he gonna dump for me he has a ex that he see more than me and there rumours they are still seeing each otherhe hardly has time to see me as his gf mum is controling over himi get paranoid all the time about him im thinking of taking a break with him to sort my head out but im scared i will lose him for good that i dont want
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): You are looking to us for an answer when it is starring you in the face!!! DUMP HIM!!! You shouldn't go out with someone who already has a gf for a start. It' s wonder he has any energy left with all these women in his life. Just get rid! He is a serial womaniser and it will get worse!!! Go and get yourself a nice FREE bf of your own.
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reader, scorpiomac4 +, writes (4 December 2006):
I totally agree with lostwithoutyou62. This guy isn't worth your time and energy, never get with a man who already has a gf, he's just having his cake and eating it! The bit about his ex gf and the mum.. WHAT? He knows he can have you because as you've said you don't want to lose him, you obviously know somethings not right because you're considering taking a break. Just do it, a guy like this is a player. He won't treat you right and he's already proven to you he's a cheater. You deserve beter, get out of this relationship and stay out... find a real man! Good luck..
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reader, lostwithoutyou62 +, writes (4 December 2006):
Well sounds a bit crazy atarisrocks. And its hard to face problems all by yourself so maybe I can help point some things out for you.
Your first mistake was dating a guy who already has a gf. Weither or not you like this guy getting into a cheating game is bad news. He should have made the choice to dump her before you guys were to go out, because now you have a heap of trouble to face.
My advice will be short and sweet. You were thinking about the exact right thing to do. A break is the best answer I think. This will show him that your serious about you two and that he needs to make his mind up about how much he really cares about you. And its hurts thinking about loosing someone, but this might be one chance you should make. To me this guy doesn't sound likes hes worth your time, if he wont even take the time to dump his other gf. You should be ready to back up or feelings 100%. But in this case its time to play the offensive role. I wish you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): This man literally doesn't have any spare time for you, what with these two other women!
You do well to feel paranoid. Yes, take a break from him -
and then make it permanent - UNLESS during the time you are "on break" he definitely, once and for all completely stops seeing or contacting the other two. If he SAYS he wants to see you and will stop seeing them "sometime soon" or some other kinda nonsense - why then, you leave so fast he won't see you for dust!
You deserve to have a guy who is clear that he wants to be with YOU, and will treat you with respect and consideration.
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