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*oyleroi
writes:in 2008 i met a girl when she was on vacation in a club trough a mutual friend. we discovered that we were door to door neighbours. she had a relationship which she wasnt sure about, she left back to england while i was living in my homecountry. We then got really close speaking everyday and she came to visit me and i visited her until she came and we got together and it was real love, passion, lust. She still dated the boyfriend for another 6 months and still visited me. i fell for her hard. she moved to my homecountry after she decided to break up with her boyfriend. It didnt work out and i didnt want her to do what she wanted because i knew i didnt trust her. but i still loved her soo much. She moved back and told me she doesnt know what she wants and be best to be friends.. i couldnt be friends with her, deleted her from my life and moved to the UK. I was dating a girl as a rebound whom i didnt love while she was talking shit behind my back to that girl and every other girl that approached me.. its been a year since we are not together and i still love her.. i havent told her that i love her because i knew she would reject me untill yesterday, i told her the truth that i moved here for her and that i still love her.. i know she has been with many guys since, but i really believed she was the one i would marry. We ended the conversation by me saying that i love her, i dont trust her and that i know shes not part of my future. She said i needed help because its already been a year... I know shes over me but why cant i let go of her?? please help, its been a year and feels like a century
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reader, petina1 +, writes (1 January 2011):
 It sounds like you've not trusted her and shown it to her. Have you tied her down through the mistrust and not let her live as she should. You will never be able to trust her and it will spoil your relationship with her, asking where she's going, who she's with etc. She may feel like she's in prison. You've probably shown her this side of you and she doesnt want it. I can't see it happening for you with this girl and you know you can't move on but you must because you've come to the end with her.
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