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writes:okay i need help okay so im going to be a freshman at seguin high school and im confused on how the guys are like are they the same as they are in movies please somebody help me cause im trying to be more out there to guys and not push them away and be shy i really want to change in high school
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): I was always quite a shy person in school, it wasn't until my later years of high school I started to become more outgoing. I'm thankful for that though, because if I was the really confident type of guy, I'd have made all kinds of tragic mistakes that I would now regret.
Just be yourself and don't try to be like anyone else.
Concentrate on your education.
Get familiar with your new school and the people around you. Before you know it, you will have a good idea of the sorts of people you would like to be friends with and those you wouldn't.
When you are comfortable and you make new friends, your confidence will begin to grow and things just fall into place.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Sweetie nothing in life is like the movies - movies are fake, a fantasy world that is made up to help us escape the real world. Make sure you remember this - it is a key lesson in life that life is nothing like the movies. If you remember this then you wont be disappointed by anything and you wont have unrealistic expectations.
So what will the boys be like? Well there will be a variety of guys. There will be the nerdy, geeky guys who study hard and dont pay much attention to girls. There will be the 'jocks', the sporty fit guys who all the girls fancy - but these guys tend to be arrogant and only go out with the cheerleader type girls.
There will be shy guys, the ones that are too scared to talk to girls and will stick together with the other shy guys. Then there will be normal guys, who are not particularly sporty, but they are not shy or too geeky either.
Just like there are lots of different types of girls, there will be lots of different types of guys.
But when you first start high school everyone is in the same boat, you all have to make friends, no-one really knows each other and you are all nervous, even if some people dont show it. The first thing you should try and do is make friends with girls that are similar to you - dont try and force yourself to fit in with people who you dont have anything in common with. Join some clubs at school where you can do sports/hobbies you enjoy, and meet new people who enjoy those activities too.
Once you have settled into school and made new friends you can then start to figure the boys out - but at first no-one is really interested in dating because they would rather make friends and settle in first, before they start worrying about dating. Its fine to have a crush if you see a cute guy, but dont worry about taking it further for now.
Try and relax, make friends and settle into school. You will soon figure out the groups of guys, the jocks, the geeks, the bullies, the nice guys etc. You will learn the ones to stay away from and maybe the ones that you could eventually start dating. But until you have been there a couple of months you wont know which guys are the nice guys so there is no point in worrying about it just yet.
As you get older you will get more confident and the shyness fades away, I know that is a rubbish answer and you would like not to be shy right now but it is just something that goes away as you get older. As long as you make friends and try and do as many hobbies as you can then you will start to come out of your shell, you will have a good social life and lots of hobbies to keep you busy so that will improve your confidence.
But most of all - dont worry! We all have good times and bad times at high school, it is a period of change when everyone feels nervous at times. Remember everyone else is in the same boat as you even if they dont show it, so try not to let nerves get the better of you and just enjoy high school.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): Highschool is a learning expirence im sure your nervous i was to now im a junior in high school, one thing is RESPECT for your self SO MANY girls get caught uo in.the moment and get bf's loose there virginities and reget it after a whike , find a boy that actually cares.. Not just wants a hook up many guys will hurt you i recomend being close friends tham seeing if it leads to anything more, please value yourself , the senior boys and older guys are sweet talkers but most only want one thing a hook up or friends with benifits,dont do that, make the guys know your worth commitment it will help threwout highschool if you just remember respect
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