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writes:Several weeks ago a co-worker and I started a friendly relationship. I am single and she is seperated. We've had drinks twice and the last time we had sex. She says she feels guilty because she isn't divorced yet but we've both agreed to see one another again. We both care a lot for each other but I'm not sure what to do. I don't force anything on her and won't. If we continue I'm sure our feelings will get stronger. Should I let things continue and be cautious or just back away and see where things go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your answer.Your feed back is appreciated.I also agree with what you've said.Divorce is emminent and we have dicussed where we want to go with this.We both want to see more of each other and truly enjoy each others company.We have both explained to each other the do's and dont's.We have decided to just see what happens and take things day by day.Once again thanks for your help.
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reader, missmel34  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 I met my fiance when I was separated from my now ex husband.
I guess it comes down to a few things.
How much contact is she currently having with him. If she is still working through issues, and if they are both doing the whole you didn't/did do this to me dance....well stay clear my friend.
However, if she has reconciled that divorce is immenent, and has limited contact with this man than go for it.
My fiance said something really beautiful to me while I was going through my divorce; He said that I was walking through a long dark tunnel and he was waiting for me in the light at the end. And he was.
A divorce is a long hard walk, full of property settlements and arguments. If she has reconciled with the fact that it is over with her ex husband then I say go for it. If however, she is doing the on again off again dance, then don't let your feelings get to involved.
Finally, there are no guarantees in life, sometimes you just have to let your heart lead the way.
Best of Luck
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