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writes: Hi. I'm a 15 year old. A while ago I began to fancy a girl who I have known for a long time but never spoken to. But a few weeks ago I started talking to her online. I have found out a lot about her and we like talking to each other. I also talked to her after school when we stayed behind to do coursework. I talked to her and made her laugh which is good. But when someone told me she had a boyfriend I was gutted. I still talk to her and now when I see her in the corridor I say bye to her now which is good for me because I am quite shy. But I want to go to the prom with this girl, so how can I build my relationship up even further with this girl? Please give me advice because I really want this to happen.
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reader, falloutgrl163 +, writes (16 November 2005):
First of all, are you absolutely positive that she DOES have a boyfriend? just because someone told you that she has one, doesn't automatically mean it's true. They could be assuming things so if you are not sure, then go ahead and ask her (without being obvious)first!
Now, if she DOES have a boyfriend, you need to find out how she feels about her relationship with this guy. If her feelings for him are strong, stable, and she totally cares about him, then i'm sorry to break it to you, but it's most likely that she's not looking for another relationship with someone else at the moment.
You say that you both enjoy talking to each other online. Correct? well you need to ask yourself "does she see me the way I see her?" or "does she like me as only a good guy friend?" The only way to find out is to talk to her about it and break away from you're shell that's keeping you so shy and secretive!
Now, about Prom..
Well, bring up a casual conversation and add in "so, are you going to Prom this year? I bet it'll be fun" if she says "Yes" than casually ask her if her boyfriend will be taking her. If not, then it will be a pretty good opportunity for you to say "Hey, maybe you and I can go together if you want because I still don't have anyone to go with."
Hope I've covered enough with you and Good Luck!
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