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writes:I was in love with my best friend for about a 2 years. i finally told her how i felt and after about 2 months she broke up with her boy friend and made it pretty clear she wanted be with me.so i was stoked and for about 6 weeks it was really great. then all the sudden it got uncomfortable, i dont know how it started, but when i started to realize it was happening i got all worried andd anxious made it even worse.conversations with her now are like pulling teeth and if i even so much as touch her its uncomfortable. For a month thing have been spirally out of control and i want desperately to change i but can only seem to make it go more wrong.it really complicated and hard to put in a short amount of words, but i love her and i just wanna be happy for a change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Sounds to me like you're nervous that you can't live up to the esteem you hold her in. Which sucks because that attitude becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I suffer from that as well, I think it's partly due to a lack of confidence.
Anyway, just try thinking back as often as possible to before you told her how you felt, and motivate yourself to show your appreciation and love for her.
But you don't make it clear whether it's 'uncomfortable' for you or for her. My reply is based on the notion that it's mainly with you, but if it's her that is going cold, I don't really know what to advise :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Your girlfriend has woken up to the realisation that you are not the boyfriend she wants. She gave up her previous relationship for you, maybe she was expecting a better relationship with you... you have to talk to her and find out what is bothering her. maybe she is too shy to tell you that she doesnt like you anymore.
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reader, oiais +, writes (23 March 2009):
This is the best advice i can give you" Talk it out" no matter what it is you can always talk it out.
hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): i'll give you a piece of advice that was given to me a few years back, and it's helped me in many, many situations: it's only ackward if you make it ackward. best advice that's ever been given to me.
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