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writes:Help me! I have such a fear of being intimate with a man. I am a 28 year old female and when i first meet a guy that i am into i get all excited about seeing him but the minute i realize that he is into me as well i start becoming really anxious and find that i become scared of having to be intimate...i have lost so many great guys bc of this and i cant figure out what is wrong...i dont want to be alone forever! Reply to this Question
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (13 September 2008):
i feel the same way and would like some more advice on this question!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): Hello Miss. When you meet a guy that you like a lot and would like to see again, it does not automatically mean you have to start being intimate with him in a sexual way. Be in controll here. It is natural and normal for the woman to be in control. It is normal to get to know the guy over a period of time, maybe four or five dates - the timing is up to you - never forget that. The main thing is having a strong liking for eachother. A genuine guy - one that is genuinely interested in YOU and not what he can get sexually - will respect you for that. Have a few dates and when YOU feel right for things to go further - then you will know it. JUust be in a position to suss out the guys motives. It's an instinctive thing.
Good luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 September 2008):
 The girls in the site can tell you better, I'm sure, but I can offer this practical advice: if you don't get over that fear of yours, you will end up alone forever. There might be issues or stuff you need to solve, but, in the end, that is your dilemma. You need to choose.
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