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writes:Hiya I'm 15 years old and I'm so confused, scared about doing things with guys...The furthest I've been is him just messing about down below but over the trousers if that makes sense? I like this guy and I want to go further with him but I'm scared. I know people will think that I shouldn't if I'm not ready but I think I am just scared of the fact things might hurt or that if I do things to him it might go wrong! Do you think that guys mind if you don't do oral? And about fingering, do they actually have to stick their fingers up there? I mean can't they just like rub? That always feels nicer! Can't see how it can feel good having his fingers up there? I don't want to have full on sex with him though, just to let you know lol. Please help! Not only would it be good to get a girl's point of view but would love a guy's too...x
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reader, MissKin +, writes (14 January 2008):
 Hey! Most people will totally see where you're coming from and I got exactly what you mean about everything.
The best way to get what you both want out of what comes next is to talk about it. Be as open as possible. Tell him you want to go a little bit further but you're worried about doing something wrong, this will help to ease your worries as long as he is understanding. And if he asks what he can do in return for you, simply tell him you would prefer to be 'rubbed' rather than 'fingered'. If you can't talk openly about sexual matters your relationship in that area may become a little rocky and you will feel less comfortable than you should.
Often when you're 'experiencing new things' you feel a fear, it's more of an anxiety and apprehension when it comes down to it. Really talking to him about these things will be good for you. If he's mature enough to handle your concerns then you'll feel more comfortable with your decision to take things further. You'll also most likely find that you open up a door and find he has his own concerns and insecurities too.
Take care and best wishes,
Miss K.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (14 January 2008):
In most things first times are always scary and give you cold feet but you just need to tell yourself that you can do it.It's like having an injection,da 1st time freaks you out but you learn to have less fear as time goes by.You really need to communicate to your guy what you want.You've mentioned that you don't wana go all the way so you are da one that's supposed to show him what to do and what not to do.I just hope you can draw the line because sometims we get carried away.
Good luck.
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