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writes:Im almost 7 months pregnant and it seems like my boyfriend cant get his priorities straight. He got laid off from work and instead of looking for another job he wants to go fishing every day, or hang out with his friends instead of spending quality time with me and helping me plan for the baby... Its driving me crazy what do i do? I have tried reasoning with him, i even threatened to leave if it doesnt change but thats not working either... He has a good heart and i dont want to leave him but fishin and hangin out with friends doesnt pay the bills Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): he is not recieving unemployment... it wasnt exactly a lay off so much as they cut his hours so much that it wasnt worth the trip... -*this is my story*-
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): You can't make him do anything... good luck. Sounds like he wants to kick back and take a government check till the money runs out. Was he that lazy when you got pregnant?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 The problem with making threats is that you have to follow them through.
You need to sit him down and have a serious conversation, such as what is he doing for money to pay the rent (or mortgage) utilities, gas, insurances.
Does he think you are going to go to work with a new born baby strapped to your back? Who is going to keep the roof over your heads and food in your bellies?
Tell him, either he starts acting like he is a part of what is happening right now, ie impending parenthood, or you will start making plans to go it alone.
And if he doesn't make the changes you want, leave him. If he refuses to understand now he needs a wake up call. If he refuses to hear the wake up call, its time for you to move on a build a life for you and your baby, because he isnt going to do it!
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