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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Been with my partner for just over a year, love him so much and as far as i was concern he was happy with me too. im 6 months pregnant with a baby boy (our first child) and we are just decorating our new place which will be done in 2 months. 3 weeks ago i had the biggest shock of my life, one that hurt so much. my boyfriend is having casual sex with another man, i now have proof because they have been seen, and i also saw them kissing, he doesn't know that i know, i decided to keep quiet as i was so gobsmacked. i went home and just cried all night, im playing along with him at his game, i dont want to say nothing yet, i will when im ready and before our baby comes. i am furious with him, he keeps cuddling me, kissing me, telling me how much he loves me, and even still wants to sleep with me all the time, but i cant even do any of those things knowing that a man is also doing those things to him too, it makes me feel sick because i thought he loved me and our baby, he cant do that much. his family love me and they will be disgusted at what he is doing, i have told my mum about this but she doesn't believe me, its upsetting because i cant even talk to my own mum. the home we have is in my name, this may sound mean, but he has been doing the place all up, and as soon as we have everything we need for the baby and our home, im going to leave him, the reason i cant leave him yet is because he's the one who is buying the home stuff and i wouldnt be able to do it on my own, so im basically using him until the place is all done up and ready to be lived in sounds harsh but look at what he has done to me already, i have been trying not to get too stressed otherwise it will effect the baby. i have no problem with baby stuff i have already brought everything, dont need nothing else. i have a close relationship with my sister so atleast i have someone to support me. thing is i still love him so much, its going to be so hard. i never thought he was gay, or maybe he is bi, the thing that hits me hard the most, is that the man he is sleeping with is a close member of my family, my own blood. i have already cut the family member out of my life, its the worst betrayal ever i also never thought that he would do that to his wife either, turns out he must be gay or bi too. im so down, confused and hurt. the people i loved the most have all let me down. all i have left now really is my baby boy, atleast i know he wont let me down. do you think im doing the right thing playing along with it for a while? and i feel so down that i think i wont ever find a nice man who is truthful and wouldnt hurt me, i think they are all the same, and how am i meant to trust again? its also very scary bringing up my baby alone, i will let the father be part of his life, but i want nothing to do with him or my family, the only person i have left is my sister and shes always there for me as she knows how hard a split is. please help im so confused.
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reader, Kayl 25 +, writes (23 July 2010):
This guy sounds like a creep and a charmer who is havig his cake and eating it. In fact he sounds exactly like my little boys day who cheated on me throughout my pregnancy andwas even with his other women while i brought our son into the world. I did exactly tbe same as you, said nothing, got my house decorated by him then kicked him out. Sounds harsh but i felt like he owed me, now im a single mother to a gorgeous 2 year old boy who is my whole world.
It is hard at first but being a mother just comes naturally and you'll do ok on your own. Get rid of him and dont look back, you and your baby deserve so much better.
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