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writes:Hi there, I have a problem at the moment, right i recently got together with this guy and he's so sweet and kind and has a great personality and he really cares about me, but the problem is i really don't find him attractive at all! Like, I'm not really interested in him in that sort of way. But I really don't want to hurt his feelings as he is such a nice guy. I also told some of our friends that I liked him and this is one of the factors that made him ask me out, so I feel like such a mean person for having done this!! What should I do?!? (Also I have only been going out with him for about a day!) Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): Okay, I know exactly how you feel, I have just got out of a similar situation. He asked me out, but, I had to say no. You really need to get out of this relationship because the longer you leave it then the more you wil hurt him. Tell him that you don't want a relationship at the moment and that you want to good friends and see how it goes. Good luck xx
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (27 May 2008):
 Sometimes in this life we have got to be cruel to be kind, i know its hard but you really have got to tell him that you only see him as a friend and no more. You will hurt his feelings more if you lead him on, with him thinking he has a chance with you, ultimately you will be leading him to an even bigger fall. Sure he will be hurt, but he will get over it, and you will feel alot better in yourself as you will have done the right thing.
Hope it goes well x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): Hey there, its weird when you start seeing someone and youre not entirely sure what you feel. But the fact you told some of your friends you liked him and that you said yes to seeing him means there was something there otherwise you would have said no outright. As you get older you learn it is always so much more than just looks, at the end of the day they mean nothing if you have someone you can trust and who wouldnt hurt you, all the qualities youve described make him seem like a lovely guy. Without hurting him or stringing him along give him a chance, if you really dont think it will work, be very kind to him when you tell him, and stay friends with him if possible, it means alot to people.
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