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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is the sweetest man, he protects me,is loving, caring, and the perfect person for me. We have the most incredible sex life i could ever ask for and gives me everything i need BUT... i do not find him physically attractive! I feel terrible and feel like I am being shallow, what can I do to get over this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): You are the one who needs to answer to yourself (without letting pop culture influence your views). Ask yourself, what is more important to me looks or personality? Let me tell you there is NO SUCH as a perfect man. Many women think that they are going to marry a man with great looks, six-pack abs, intelligence, wonderful personality, confident, well-rounded, status, high paying job and educated. I am sorry but that doesn't exist. If you truly do not like this man I would just end the relationship. You cannot force others to like you nor can you force yourself to like others--IT HAS TO COME FROM WITHIN.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008): Im in the same situation as you. Been with my boyfriend 3 years but dont really fancy him tho hes good looking got a great body and treats me like a queen. You never though it may have something to do with you not being happy inside yourself. Like ive become depressed and that has effected how i feel towards my bf. Its true tho as you get older looks get less important and trust respect and honesty mean much more!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 August 2008):
 So . . . your boyfriend is an eight or nine out of 10? Perhaps not very good-looking? All I could suggest is that you have a better deal than many young women these days, but if you value a "pretty face" above all those other qualities, you may learn that better looking guys often come with undesirable traits, such as being unfaithful, excessively demanding or even worse. Best wishes.
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reader, xalfiex  +, writes (14 August 2008):
 Nothing.
If you dont actually fancy them, no offense, but you're screwed. You've got to want them as well as like them as a person. There is only so far that turning the lights off and sinking a few drinks can do. Sex may be good as well, but unless you start to crave their body in a few weeks, I'd give it up. Being with somebody because they are nice never works.
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