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writes:I have a boyfriend but i haven't been in love with him for quite a while. I do care for him, i do love him, just not as a boyfriend. we've only dated for about 10 months but he's really into deep. I recently met a guy that i really really like and as it turns out he likes me too. He told me he'd like to start a relationship with me and i would too. But the thing is that i don't know what to do with my boyfriend. I have tried to break up with him a couple of times but he always cries and begs me not to leave him, wich breaks my heart and i'm completely unable of telling him it's over. what do i do ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, thanks to all for your advice, i finally broke up with him!! although i don't think he is taking it so well.
And it turns out things may not go so well with the other guy but still i'm better off without my ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): Sweetness. You should go with what your heart tells you. You are a young beautiful princess, and only you should decide who you want to be with. You have been with this loser for 10 months already. He should count his blessings. Just tell him clearly that it's over, and see how it goes with the guy your heart desires. If the current one keeps being persistent then report him to the police. They know exactly how to stop losers and creeps.
Just go with your heart hun, and you have NO OBLIGATION whatsoever towards this loser! Just tell him it's off and move on!
Best luck,
Emily
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 September 2010):
You've got to stop falling for his tears! You know you don't love him and that he's not the one. You need to be a bit more heard hearted here and just get on with it, because you're wasting his time, your time and this other guy's time.
So, take your boyfriend to a public place, such as a cafe. Have a friend nearby who can take you away if he starts up crying again. Sit him down, tell him that he's a great guy, and he will make another girl very happy. Then tell him that you're not the one for him and you have to end it and move on. Then leave. Yes, he will be hurt. No, he'll not like you for it. But that's what has to happen here.
Stop falling for his tears, accept you need to do this for your sake and his and get on with it. You've got to do it, so do it calmly and quickly and just get out of there.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 September 2010):
 What a wuss. More importantly he's got issues. What's worse is you're hurting him even more by stringing him and his feelings along. The longer you wait the worse the break-up. I suggest you tell him over the phone so you don't have to see him cry or beg. Tell him it's over with you are no longer in love with him and it's not fair to your feelings or his to keep this up. Then proceed to cut off contact, being friends isn't an option right now because he won't be able to handle it.
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