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writes:I have recently made the decision to move out my home i share with my partner and shall be moving out in the next 4 weeks. We are not splitting im just moving out, When i told my partner this he did not seem bothered but over the past week he has become more loving and actually wants to spend more time with me. The reason im moving out is because over the past 3 years he has become unbearable to live with lazy and he was oblivious to me being there hes rude gets very angry quickly and is totally innocent in our arguments. I do love him but i believe ive made the right decision by moving out but im a bit worried that we might drift apart i dont want this to happen as i love him more than anything does anyone have any advice as to how i can stop this from happening? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 I don't think your moving out will will cause you to drift apart. I actually think it's a good idea considering what you've stated regarding him being "unbearable to live with". And if he's become more attentive towards you after telling him your decision, he probably feels the same way. I've been living with my guy for several years now and quite honestly, If I had somewhere else to go, I'd leave. I think our relationship would be a lot healthier if I had my own place.
Just because you're not living together doesn't mean that you're not together, it just means that the time you hangout with each other will be more appreciated (and if he's being a jerk, you can just go home!). I think you made a rational decision and I wouldn't worry.
-Jmo
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (13 January 2009):
 I would carry on doing the things you did before except your not living with him so when you decide to stay over then maybe that will be the only time you might feel it different he will have to understand why you have moved out i am guessing that was not an easy decision to make especially if you have been together for a while. Maybe trying a few changes here and there if he wants you to stay over weekends say you will only do so as long as he has made the effort to plan a nice weekend and next weekend you can plan a nice weekend it is just getting back to the basics of when you first started going out maybe he has took you a little too much for granted so gently ease that in here and there.
In any relationship it takes a lot of work to keep the passion and fire in there so to stop you two from drifting apart make sure your schedule is busy when you are with one another you won't have time that way to drift!
Gina
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