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writes:Im married and have been for 24years ,i am gay and have told my wife ,she is happy that i told her and has no problems with me being gay,she isnt intereasted in sex at all with anyone ,and doesnt want me to leave her at all,I feel im holding her back from a normal happy life ,i have a gay frind who she encouages me to see once a week and do so ,am i holding her back from a better life ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): She gave you 24 years of her life as a wife already, so as long as she is ok with it. After all why must she make changes to her life and retirement plans bec now after 24 years you decided to be truthful.
Accept it and live on.
Practice safe sex.
And still continue to be the loving hb you used to be??
Each to his own!
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reader, askmeanything2 +, writes (20 February 2011):
askmeanything2 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to all the people that took the time to read and reply to my question.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 If you are both happy in this arrangement, then no damage has been done. There are lots of "alternative" marital arrangements that are like this that work for people. However, you both need to 100% on board.
Do you feel like your life is fulfilled and satisfying? Do you think she truly feels satisfied in hers? This is a very personal question, and one only the both of you can make. Good luck!
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (19 February 2011):
 This isn't healthy for either one of you. You both need to move on with your own lives. I think she is probably afraid to face life alone without you at her age, but she needs a gentle push from you.
File for divorce and move things along. In time it sounds like the two of you can still be very good friends and I applaud both of you for handling it this way, if I were your wife I am pretty sure I would be angry with you for quite some time for lying to me and lying to yourself.
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reader, skirting the issues +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Be very careful. I told my wife I liked dressing up and she encouraged me all the way to the divorce court. This is not bitterness honey. I am better off without her. Do you have children? Let me know if I can be of assistance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): As long as she knows the facts then no, then, you're not holding her back, but is she holding you back from the life you want?
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